Internet
relationships...such a strange yet fascinating phenomenon. At once intimidating, mysterious, and highly
addicting...the internet has proven itself to be much more than a super highway
of information and resources. In fact,
it has dramatically changed many lives.
Relationships online can be more
intense than those in "real life," so to speak. Emotions pour forth with more ease than they
would otherwise, had you been sitting face to face. In addition to the intensity, online
relationships can also be formed more quickly and easily. There is
even a saying that knowing someone online for one month is
equal to actually dating them for six!
That is because the soul and heart are open more readily. The computer screen somehow shields us. We can tell our innermost secrets, desires,
and thoughts. It tends to make it
easier, acting like a buffer. And yet,
though it acts as a buffer, at the same time, it acts like a door...opening up
to your heart.
Now, don't get
me wrong! I'm not saying we should all
stop going out and meeting people the old fashioned way. I'm simply saying we need to accept
this concept because it is now "the way" of
meeting great new friends or even soulmates. Hundreds of
thousands (perhaps even millions) of hopeful individuals seek some form of love
and acceptance on the internet.
In some ways, it
has even assisted the most shy, insecure person in coming out of their shell
and being able to carry that over into "real life." On that one, I definitely speak from
experience. When I first discovered the
internet, I was a shy little waif who had an alter personality online. I was able to let my "real self,"
the one I kept hidden deep inside, bloom and even flourish without repercussions.
I became outgoing, flirty, and very talkative.
It is less likely to be rejected or shunned online than you might be in
person; therefore, people can be their true selves. Some say “it’s just a computer!” Perhaps it is – to SOME. But to others, it is life. It is sharing of our lives…sharing the joys,
sorrows, ups, downs, trials, and tribulations.
Sharing stories on how we loved and lost and loved again online. It serves as more than just a silly box and
keyboard…it serves as a support network.
In fact, many people grow closer to online friends than their own
relatives! They also converse with them
more often, which is not uncommon.
Everyone has
their own story. I was was lucky enough to find my soulmate/future husband online when AOL first burst on the scene. We actually met in a chat room - what were the odds? We've been happily together now for 14 years and counting. On Facebook, I've
formed extremely close friendships with very special people.
You'll find
that many online relationships, no matter the capacity, eventually move offline
as well...with the participants exchanging phone numbers and even meeting in
person. Crossing that fine line between
ONline and OFFline occurs more often than you think. This is growing more and more common, and
I've also benefited from that as well. I've had the great fortune of meeting a new best friend. We've met in person recently & intend to visit again in August.
Well beyond the
typed words...right behind the computer screens, there are many people out there with their very own amazing stories. These special connections can be life-saving, life-enriching, and sometimes more enjoyable and reliable than any friend you may know 'in person.'
